“I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles.”
—~Audrey Hepburn






Dear Friend,

November seems to have slipped in quietly and without much fanfare this year. Halloween filled my thoughts as did the friends and family gathering I hold each year. Once the candy had been given out, friends had gone home and the little ghosts and goblins were safe in their beds, October quietly faded into November. It wasn’t until yesterday that I suddenly popped up and said aloud, “It’s November!” The friend I was meeting with looked at me strangely, as if I were a little slow, then nodded her head and said, “Yes, Eden. It’s November and has been November for a while now.”

I laughed and continued on in my conversation with my friend, but my mind was separately working overtime. November! That means Thanksgiving and then the holidays and then New Years and then, and then, and then! Suddenly my mind shot ahead to next year and all that would encompass and I got excited, very excited at all that lay ahead. It was a strange moment for me, but also a wonderful one.

And, as so often has happened in my life, I became incredibly grateful. I was deeply touched and humbled by how fortunate I am. I have so much to be thankful for. Friends and family being the most important part of that.

That gratitude filled me and caused me to smile the rest of the time I was with my friend. She probably thought I was acting odd, but as a good friend does, she just let me be who I was. We eventually hugged goodbye and went on our separate ways, yet the rest of the day I felt a mixed sense of peace and happiness.

It was a good day. And though there are no guarantees, thoughts of tomorrow and all the possibilities excite me. Despite the unknown, Iím ready to "embrace the rain". My Monthly Garden Acorns talk a bit more about that.

I wish you a wonderful Thanksgiving filled with joy and love. I hope you’re able to spend it with those you care most about in gratitude, peace and happiness.

Just Believe It,

Eden

My Acorns

 

I just finished reading Garth Stein’s The Art of Racing in the Rain. I loved this bittersweet story. It was told from a fresh and different perspective (through the experiences of a dog who thinks like and longs to be a human), and it offered words of wisdom that were in the context of Formula One racing, yet applicable to all of our lives.

The story itself was heartbreaking and motivating at the same time. It showed both sides of the human spirit, weak and strong, and how this could and did affect a person’s life. An ongoing theme that carried through much of this book was about self manifestation. How events manifest in my life is in proportion to how I see things and what direction or outcome my thoughts, intentions and vision hone in on.

The quote to the right was one of several from the book that had an impact on me.

Why?

Mainly, because it addressed a current and ongoing paradigm in my life. Facing the unknown head on. Looking fear in the face and not averting my gaze. This juncture in living, this fork in the road where I have to choose to either face and delve into the unknown or settle for and stay complacently within the known has been one that has blessed or plagued me, depending on the day, my entire life.

It started, literally at birth. I was born premature and severely underweight. So much so, that I left the safety and comfort of my mother’s womb and began fighting for my life in an incubator. My lungs weren’t ready to breathe air and the doctors really weren’t sure if I was going to make it. My grandmother often told me that I was so small at birth that my head would have fit in a tea cup. My mom would also add that I looked like an underfed baby chicken with its feathers plucked out; a plucked baby chicken she loved with all her heart and prayed through her tears that I would make it through.

And I did make it through.

Something in me was and is a survivor. Something in me didn’t care that my lungs weren’t ready. Something in me wanted to live and face the big, bright, loud world around me instead of going back to the peaceful comfort of oblivion.

These situations continued in grade school, when my mother married a man who was an alcoholic and drug user who liked to touch me in ways he shouldn’t, and then again at the age of sixteen, when my mother was wrongly accused, arrested and tried for murder. Three trials later she was finally found innocent and set free. These life altering events resulted in my stepfather leaving town and forced me to make choices no sixteen year old girl should have had to make. From that point forward, decisions to face my fears or succumb and settle kept cropping up and took me first across the West coast of the US to the East, to live with a father who I barely knew, then to the continent of Africa to stay with an uncle who was more of a stranger than relative. While there, I attended school that was heavily entrenched in the peak of the Apartheid struggles that consumed and divided South Africa and its people at that time.

And so this pattern continued, in small ways and big.

All of these events were manifestations affecting me based on how I perceived what was in front of me and how I chose to proceed based on that perception. And these events, these crossroads proceeded with enough frequency that I now have to consider in all seriousness that this process is a lesson I’m being taught. And it’s one that someone apparently feels that I really, really need to understand and learnóover and over and over again.

Well, like they say, practice makes perfect. So, here I am again trying to understand my lesson and make the right decisions. That in itself can be debilitating. Making the right decisions. What are the right decisions, anyway? Sometimes it’s hard to say. Sometimes it just seems easier not to make any decisions. But then, with indecision comes, inevitably a decision. The decision not to participate. And of course, that has consequences of its own.

In Stein’s book, he writes something unforgettable about this in a dialogue between one of his main characters, Denny and another character named Don. “There is no dishonor in losing the race,” Don said. “There is only dishonor in not racing because you are afraid to lose.”

This quote is an absolute truth. At least in the reality that’s my life.

Along with this, come my own thoughts about living. For me, it’s better to live in hope, possibility and daring, despite the fear, than it is to live in limitation, indecision and avoidance because of that fear.

Sounds easy enough, right? Um, maybe not so much.

You see, to actually be aware of the situation and naming it for what it is are two different things. Different puzzle pieces of the same whole, yet pieces that can, and sometimes do remain forever apart. And going in further, to see it, name it, and then act upon it is an entirely new animal all together.

But this new animal, well, it’s my animal. Like Enzo the dog belonged to Denny, his owner, and Denny belonged to his dog, Enzo, so does this animal of living and venturing into the unknown belong to me. Believe me, there are times when I don’t want to claim it. When I want to shoo it away into a back room and not think about it. But that can only go on so long.

And, quite frankly, I’ve learned that the longer I shoo it away and try to avoid or forget about it, the worse I feel, and the more opportunities I lose. And once that opportunity is lost my friend, it very often is lost forever. Period. The end.

That game, as I’ve mentioned before, that “what if” game of what I could have done differently, replayed again and again and again in my head is a torture I’d rather forgo.

So, here I go again on my own, as the band White Snake sings. The territory is strange. The path is not laid out before me and the inhabitants of this new land are not known to me. Yet, despite this, I still know in my mind the direction I must go in this new territory, just as I understand that the inhabitants I hope to encounter are ultimately known to my heart.

All will be revealed in good time. And when that happens, I have learned the reality is often better than the dream. And the fear is replaced by an indescribably feeling of satisfaction, joy and rightness. So be it. The journey awaits...


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Who’s Eden?

EDEN ROBINS hears voices in her head. Her characters' voices, that is. She loves creating new worlds and complex characters that always seem to find their way into one sticky predicament or another. She enjoys helping them get untangled from these situations, only to find themselves entangled in love affairs that will last for all time.

With the success of her futuristic, award winning Tomorrow trilogy and RT rated 4 1/2 Stars preternatural After Sundown series, Eden is firmly entrenched in the world of Science Fiction and Paranormal Romance.

Eden creates her far off adventures and romantic happily ever after tales while living in the Arizona Desert with her family and two extremely spoiled pugs, Jasmine and Biggs.